Being a “Romance Manufacturer”, one of the biggest misconceptions about our home life is that every day is filled with romance. While we do strive to make the most of our early morning coffee in bed, walks through local hills and IM’s throughout the day, we also have to contend with daily life. We are a regular couple, just like everyone else. We have a mortgage, credit cards, college tuitions, and a blended family. We have times when a lack of communication leads to a disagreement, but it’s communicating that gets us back on track. Being communicative and expressive with your partner and sharing emotions is not weakness; it makes you whole.
Like every other couple, we’re always looking for ways to get through the chaos of every day while still maintaining “us”. It’s not always easy, but we make an effort. We strive to keep romance alive by talking about what really matters, being supportive and spending fun time together. We’re not experts; we just know that you have to tend to the relationship as much as you do the rest of your life.
True romance involves tiny, attentive touches that show thoughtfulness, consideration and sensitivity on both parts. Its also about spending time listening and sharing concerns and being there for each other during the bad times as well as the good. It doesn’t take much; it can be something as simple as holding hands while watching TV, touching her hand and letting it linger there as you hand her a cup of coffee in the morning, or just sweeping the hair from her eyes as you kiss her cheek. And sometimes, as True.com suggests: “Romance is about more than just the sense of touch. It’s about the way a candle flame makes her eyes sparkle; how the right song makes his laugh musical; how certain scents amplify natural pheromones, [whether they be romantic or passionate]; and how a sweet taste followed by a spicy one intensifies the kiss that follows.”
Romance is an important element of marriage. However, it often dwindles due to a lack of communication, a lack of affection, differences in opinion or not taking the time for one another as we once did. However, study after study has shown that married people, along with those in committed relationships, tend to be happier than those who are not, so devoting time to nurturing the relationship can only serve to boost morale, well-being and peace of mind—for the family as a whole…blended or not! -Martha
